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Why have there been no blog post for over a year?

One day while getting up off the couch, I fell and broke both of my arms! Healing has taken alot longer than I expected. I guess that's what comes from no longer being a spring chicken. 

I have returned recently to blog writing and started this new blog page for 2019. 

 Please click out my Mary Jane Blog page for post before that eventful day.   Stay tuned to this page for upcoming blogs.


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Stress happens to all of us. Sometimes it's unavoidable and at times, it's unbearable. Taking time for yourself is a necessity and can help you to relax, renew, and rejuvenate.

Stress does not merely affect your body and mind; it can also affect you on a cellular level. It has been shown that long-term stress can lead to a wide range of illnesses—from headaches to stomach disorders to depression. What many people don’t realize is stress can also increase the risk of serious conditions like stroke and heart disease. 

Understanding the mind/stress/health connection can help you better manage stress and improve your health and well-being.

The Fight or Flight Response is a survival mechanism that is hardwired into our nervous systems. This automatic response is needed to allow us a quick reflex when there is imminent danger, such as swerving to avoid a car crash.

Stress can be caused by an actual event or a perceive threat. As our stress hormones rush into the bloodstream there is an increasing heart rate, blood pressure, and glucose levels. Other hormones can also suppress functions like digestion and the immune system, which is one of the reasons why chronic stress can leave you more vulnerable to illness.

That real or perceived danger mentioned above triggers the stress response, but so can work conflicts. Eighty percent of those surveyed reported feeling stressed at work. Although one bad day at work won't compromise your health, weeks or months of chronic stress can lessen your immune response and raise your risk for disease. 

There are two ways I find can reduce stress in your life. Change the situation or change the way you look at that situation. 

If you suffer from chronic stress and can't influence or change the situation, then you'll need to change your approach. Be willing to be flexible and remember that you have the ability to choose how you respond to stressors. Recognize when you don't have control, and let it go. Develop coping skills to use when you get anxious about situations that you cannot change. 

In my book Tied in Knots, 3 Steps to Reduce Stress, I show readers how to create a  vision for healthy living, wellness, and personal growth.  

Taking some time each day, even 10 or 15 minutes to relax, can improve your ability to handle life's stressors. Letting go of things in your life causing stress is obvious, but often difficult to do. Mediation, massage, listening to music or  exercising are excellent stress relievers. Although you can't avoid stress, with some practice you can minimize it by changing how you choose to respond to it. 


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Show Yourself some Self-Love for Valentine’s Day

 FEBRUARY 9, 2019  

With Valentine’s Day less than a week away, this fact, if single, thanks to all the hype surrounding the “most romantic day of the year” may find you feeling a bit down. While some may consider V-Day a day to plan the most romantic evening of the year for their significant other, many use that mid-February day instead to focus on self-love instead of romantic love.

Self-love or self-care is one of those things that may get put off when we get too busy with work, family, and “stuff”. Being willing to help others when ever asked is something we normally do, but, it’s important to stop and refocus on yourself as well.

If you’ve been too busy lately to dedicate some time to you, Not ever giving yourself self-love, you may start to feel like it’s taking a toll on your body and your health. Self-care doesn’t have to be complex, time consuming or expensive. Here are a few suggestions that may help you feel re-centered and loved.

  • Treating yourself can mean anything from taking yourself out for a fancy dinner, to spending some alone time listening to your favorite music with a cup of tea.  
  • Buy yourself flowers and chocolate. These are the top two gifts for Valentine’s Day, show yourself some love and buy some of your favorites.
  • Journal everything you’re feeling or thinking. Journal writing is something I encourage in my books. Does the day make you feel sad, happy, melancholy? Does the upcoming day remind you of days gone by? Writing how you feel, or emotional writing has been proven to help someone feel better.
  • Bake yourself a sweet treat such as chocolate chip cookies. Make extra to share with others.
  • Buy yourself that book you’ve been wanting or that piece of jewelry you stare at every time you pass the jewelry store.
  • Take a bubble bath at the end of the day and relax. Pour yourself a glass of wine, add some candles, and maybe that new book, and you’re bound to have a wonderful night.
  • Cook yourself your favorite meal, sit down and enjoy. No eating standing up or sitting on the couch with plate in hand. Don’t forget to add dessert.
  • Unplug yourself from all technology and social media. Listen to your favorite songs on the beach